This is another book where I am not sure how it ended up on my reading list. But it was very different from what I thought it’d be going in!
First of all, this book is fun! It’s a delightful read! Hannah is not shy about her own grudges as she goes through them, and she is very understanding about wherever you are in your journey with grudges. She talks about her decision to write the book and how she used to be a people pleaser and that informed her decisions here and obsession with grudges. Even if you aren’t 100% in, it’s amusing to read and such a fun ride.
It also is laid out very clearly. There’s chapters dedicated to how to evaluate your grudges, and how to even just think about grudges. It ends with how to be a good grudge holder and try to minimize yourself as a grudgee. You have to be responsible about having grudges and recognize that you are the subject of other grudges too.
What is really nice too is that Hannah isn’t a therapist, but there are two experts that weigh in occasionally about her thoughts. So you do get how an expert thinks about things. Of course these are all positive comments, but I found it reassuring that experts were indeed consulted in the process of this book.
I think my really only complaint is that this process seems so… involved. And this process is laid out, but you also have to navigate Hannah’s grudge stories and interjections to really lay out “ok this is what I have to do.” And the fact that all that is super daunting is really what stops me from going all in on this methodology right now. Don’t get me wrong, I will absolutely be using elements of this book that work for me and implementing advice for new grudges, but I don’t think I’ll be as organized about it as the author is. Which is fine, but I kinda wish the activation energy was smaller.
Hannah has turned this into a podcast! It looks like it ran
from 2018-2024, I’m excited to check those episodes out as well to keep
thinking about all of this.
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