I am getting pretty sick of all of this pressure on people
to be in relationships. It is something that no one ever discusses either, it
just goes unnoticed in society. Granted it’s not that big of a deal compared to
the much larger problems out there, but a little bit of recognition would be
good.
You see it everywhere, images of happy heterosexual couples
on all of the ads and everything, basically flaunted in front of your eyes. And
then there are all of these portrayals of sad single people, especially in tv
or in books. With this message of “don’t be like us, get yourself into a
relationship and be happy already.”
Which is fine if you’re in a relationship, but if you’re not
you get the message pounded into your head that “you aren’t allowed to be happy
unless you’re in a relationship.” And that’s really shitty. There have been
studies done, and loneliness is usually linked to shame these days. We are
ASHAMED of being single, as though we have done something wrong in order to end
up there.
Here’s the reality though: you don’t need to be in a
relationship in order to be happy. Heck, you probably will be happier if you
take time to yourself to just be single. Which no one ever talks about, of
course. You learn more about yourself and how to be happy with yourself when
you’re on your own. And most importantly, you learn how to accept yourself as a
single lady, which is so important. When you are happy being single, you will
have an easier time being kind to yourself and have more self-love. That’s what
I have found in my experience at least.
Just remember: you are a strong, independent person who does
not need anyone else. You are plenty enough on your own. <3
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